Looks like he's been through some version of Hell. I am always amused when I pass those shops with mannequins with weirdly askew wigs. They always look like they've been pulled through a hedge backwards.
Not long ago, I was walking down a residential street and saw a station wagon filled with mannequin parts, heads, arms and torsos. It looked like a Hannibal mobile. (Hanni-mobile?) In America, some nosy but easily traumatized person would have called the cops.
Actually it always surprises me that there are so many of these medical supplies shops in Turkey. And they always seem to be empty...they can't do much business.
Zoe who had no qualifications but got sacked from the private uni I worked at for getting drunk and attacking a security guard in the lojman had only one leg and had to travel to kadıkoy regularly as ıt was the only place to get plastic legs serviced ın ıst
we have some very funny models made out of plastic pipes outside the plumbers' shop - I just wish they would add an appendage to the male one as he looks a bit Ken-like
Thanks, Vicki. Awhile back, I was going to post about the scary Bulgarian circus we went to, but my photos didn't turn out so great and also I was afraid the animals would upset you too much.
I'm in the US right now so I'm kind of off the radar-- my computer time is mostly limited to quick reads of email and perhaps an article here and there, plus wasting time on Facebook.
Thanks. I am lucky I guess that I have got a good job to go to but I have not seen my son for a month and a half and am not sure when I will see him next. Hopefully I can see him in November when there is a holiday, assuming my wife plays ball.
If you have any info about divorce or child custody in Turkey please let me know.
dont know about child custody but I do know about divorce in Turkey.
Its complicated and potentially expensive.
I married a Brit in Turkey. When things went wrong he left Turkey. When it came time to divorce he basically refused to be represented by a Turkish lawyer and wanted to be represented by a UK lawyer. Never going to happen. So we got divorced in Scotland. That meant I had to get a Scottish lowyer but as we had been apart for two years by then it was all relatively straightforward.
BUT......that divorce had to be registered in Turkey. Unfortunately Turkish divorce law does not have the same established reasons for divorce as in the UK so we effectively had to get divorced a second time. The 2 year separation thing does not apply for example. So once again I had to persuade him to be represented by a Turkish Lawyer. In the end the lawyer I used in Turkey had a brother who was also a lawyer and my ex finally agreed to be represented by him (as long as I paid!). Next came the haggling over the power of attorney, as my ex did not want to pass all the power to the lawyer... everything did get sorted and my Turkish marriage was finally removed from the records effective the date we were divorced in Scotland. However I paid both mine and my ex's legal bills, approx. $3000 (due to his concerns about being ripped off) and the whole process took about 3 years. And there were no kids involved. Divorce was due to the fact that he put me in the ER one week after we got married and then fled the country.
Moral of the story, find a good english speaking Turkish lawyer now to represent you and get the wheels in motion.
Wow, Gülay. Just... wow. What a horrible thing, and what a shameful freaking awful man.
It's things like this that make me understand why people have so little faith in Turkish courts. I can't get why a divorce wouldn't be granted easily (and for no more money than the cost of filing the papers) on 2 grounds in that story-- abuse, then abandonment. It's also ridiculous they won't accept foreign divorces. What's the point of people through all that?
Yes I did but it made no difference to the divorce process. I even had a letter from him stating what had happened. Problem is the process not the reasons. If you get the right lawyer on board right away then it should be relatively straight forward.
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Looks like he's been through some version of Hell. I am always amused when I pass those shops with mannequins with weirdly askew wigs. They always look like they've been pulled through a hedge backwards.
Not long ago, I was walking down a residential street and saw a station wagon filled with mannequin parts, heads, arms and torsos. It looked like a Hannibal mobile. (Hanni-mobile?) In America, some nosy but easily traumatized person would have called the cops.
Actually it always surprises me that there are so many of these medical supplies shops in Turkey. And they always seem to be empty...they can't do much business.
Zoe who had no qualifications but got sacked from the private uni I worked at for getting drunk and attacking a security guard in the lojman had only one leg and had to travel to kadıkoy regularly as ıt was the only place to get plastic legs serviced ın ıst
You've got me feeling sorry for him now
we have some very funny models made out of plastic pipes outside the plumbers' shop - I just wish they would add an appendage to the male one as he looks a bit Ken-like
please please write another post soon - I would love to read one about the rubbish here if you take requests!
Thanks, Vicki. Awhile back, I was going to post about the scary Bulgarian circus we went to, but my photos didn't turn out so great and also I was afraid the animals would upset you too much.
I'm in the US right now so I'm kind of off the radar-- my computer time is mostly limited to quick reads of email and perhaps an article here and there, plus wasting time on Facebook.
I will second the please post again.
I have left Beylikduzu for good-2 weeks now but miss it strangely.
I'm feeling the pressure and trying to think of a post.
Left Beylikdüzü for good? Where to, toasty? I'll be back there in a couple of weeks, so I'm wicked jealous.
I have split up with my wife so am back in the Uk and back to Mid East next month. Bizarely I miss Beylikduzu.
I'm very sorry to hear that. :( Take care of yourself.
Thanks. I am lucky I guess that I have got a good job to go to but I have not seen my son for a month and a half and am not sure when I will see him next. Hopefully I can see him in November when there is a holiday, assuming my wife plays ball.
If you have any info about divorce or child custody in Turkey please let me know.
Email me at istsstranger@gmail.com, toasty. I don't have loads of info but I have researched it some...
check your email
dont know about child custody but I do know about divorce in Turkey.
Its complicated and potentially expensive.
I married a Brit in Turkey. When things went wrong he left Turkey. When it came time to divorce he basically refused to be represented by a Turkish lawyer and wanted to be represented by a UK lawyer. Never going to happen. So we got divorced in Scotland. That meant I had to get a Scottish lowyer but as we had been apart for two years by then it was all relatively straightforward.
BUT......that divorce had to be registered in Turkey. Unfortunately Turkish divorce law does not have the same established reasons for divorce as in the UK so we effectively had to get divorced a second time. The 2 year separation thing does not apply for example. So once again I had to persuade him to be represented by a Turkish Lawyer. In the end the lawyer I used in Turkey had a brother who was also a lawyer and my ex finally agreed to be represented by him (as long as I paid!). Next came the haggling over the power of attorney, as my ex did not want to pass all the power to the lawyer... everything did get sorted and my Turkish marriage was finally removed from the records effective the date we were divorced in Scotland. However I paid both mine and my ex's legal bills, approx. $3000
(due to his concerns about being ripped off) and the whole process took about 3 years. And there were no kids involved. Divorce was due to the fact that he put me in the ER one week after we got married and then fled the country.
Moral of the story, find a good english speaking Turkish lawyer now to represent you and get the wheels in motion.
Wow, Gülay. Just... wow. What a horrible thing, and what a shameful freaking awful man.
It's things like this that make me understand why people have so little faith in Turkish courts. I can't get why a divorce wouldn't be granted easily (and for no more money than the cost of filing the papers) on 2 grounds in that story-- abuse, then abandonment. It's also ridiculous they won't accept foreign divorces. What's the point of people through all that?
I meant, w"hat's the point of PUTTING people through all that?"
Except I meant that with the quotations before the "w." I pretty much suck today-- it's too hot to do anything.
Sorry to hear that Gulay.
I guess that you had no medical report or police report to prove that he did it.
Mark
Yes I did but it made no difference to the divorce process. I even had a letter from him stating what had happened. Problem is the process not the reasons. If you get the right lawyer on board right away then it should be relatively straight forward.
When are you going to do another post? I just found you and got hooked and now it is August and you need to write more.
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