tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post1686464693363133097..comments2024-01-15T21:30:40.609+03:00Comments on Istanbul's Stranger: Divorce Step One: A Trip To The NoterStrangerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09933997864575809110noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-46976048362043627092012-02-27T21:10:37.946+02:002012-02-27T21:10:37.946+02:00Thanks, guys. Your kind thoughts are very much app...Thanks, guys. Your kind thoughts are very much appreciated, even if I'm a little slow to respond.Strangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09933997864575809110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-65901742280128350072012-02-27T17:44:35.103+02:002012-02-27T17:44:35.103+02:00hey stranger,
i have been reading your blog last ...hey stranger,<br /><br />i have been reading your blog last several months with great interest.<br />i found your blog through my wife (she is an american, i am turkish and we are in states) and i am so glad that my wife showed it to me.<br />any way, those ladies in "noter' know very well what you have been through, because probably there are in the same situation or something like that.<br /><br />you are very brave person and what you have been through is painful.<br />but pain is meant to wake us up. <br />because of that what you are doing is the best thing for yourself.<br /><br />iyi sanslar... <br /><br />jolly jokerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-67826165989344742482012-02-19T16:23:04.721+02:002012-02-19T16:23:04.721+02:00thanks for sharing your experience! ve bol şans!thanks for sharing your experience! ve bol şans!matbordahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12539647783839258119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-31056468410345389612012-02-16T15:05:51.444+02:002012-02-16T15:05:51.444+02:00Thanks!
And I don't think all Turkish men are...Thanks!<br /><br />And I don't think all Turkish men are creeps. I'm pretty well soured on marriage, though...Strangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09933997864575809110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-63517733101758662942012-02-16T13:11:52.994+02:002012-02-16T13:11:52.994+02:00Congrats Stranger. Really really congrats. You sho...Congrats Stranger. Really really congrats. You should be brave and strong. No one can take your boy from you. And please do not think that all Turkish men are creeps. You ought to be much stronger for your boy.<br /><br />"Don't make sad your wife. She is entrusted to you by Allah. Behave her nice, make her happy." <br /><br />"Only people who has dignity and honor, value a woman."<br /><br />"Neither your fast nor namaz would be accepted, unless you protect your wife's rights."<br /><br />They all above are hadiths of Mohammed (sav). Don't feel even sad about someone who does not follow even his Prophet's rule.<br /><br />I hope you and your son will get over it soon. Allah helps you. xMuhammed A.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-83582949509206194922012-02-12T20:56:11.635+02:002012-02-12T20:56:11.635+02:00Thanks. I hope it keeps being this good...Thanks. I hope it keeps being this good...Strangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09933997864575809110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-7356967200418500352012-02-12T19:39:35.259+02:002012-02-12T19:39:35.259+02:00Well done, you. Those women in the notary office a...Well done, you. Those women in the notary office and others around you know what you're going through. Even if they're in happy relationships, they will know women trapped in bad ones, including their own mothers in some cases. They all know the level of domestic violence in Turkey is horrendous. They feel for you - female solidarity at its best. Get strength from them.<br /><br />Hang on in there. It's the best thing you will ever do.Jack Scotthttp://www.perkingthepansies.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-28839235848156532952012-02-11T22:07:13.848+02:002012-02-11T22:07:13.848+02:00Best wishes, Stranger. From the heart.Best wishes, Stranger. From the heart.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-13586859146138200602012-02-10T11:46:07.148+02:002012-02-10T11:46:07.148+02:00Thanks, Iman!
I still think you're braver tho...Thanks, Iman!<br /><br />I still think you're braver though. I totally brag on you guys and what you've done... :)<br /><br />xxStrangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09933997864575809110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-60251041205464134602012-02-10T11:30:24.577+02:002012-02-10T11:30:24.577+02:00S you commended us for being brave enough to take ...S you commended us for being brave enough to take the step to move south to have a better life for our kids, but that's nothing compared to your bravery.<br />You're awesome and I'm proud to call you my friend. <br />Iman<br />xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-69342370397750039922012-02-08T20:27:01.465+02:002012-02-08T20:27:01.465+02:00@ Vicki, thanks! And hats off to you on getting th...@ Vicki, thanks! And hats off to you on getting the ID replaced. You're amazing!<br /><br />@ Mark, I'm so sorry to hear that. And my own superstition is making me hope I haven't jinxed it, that things are going this well. However much Turkish assumptions about women and mothers and their children all rub me the wrong way, divorcing and custody is one case where being a woman works in my favor.<br /><br />I would never take my son from his dad, though. What a shame to use a child that way.Strangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09933997864575809110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-61773323685913561892012-02-08T18:57:10.247+02:002012-02-08T18:57:10.247+02:00Hang on in there.
MarkHang on in there.<br /><br />MarkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-73751801408281610282012-02-08T18:56:36.720+02:002012-02-08T18:56:36.720+02:00Hang on in there. I am still waiting for the divor...Hang on in there. I am still waiting for the divorce to come through and we are back to 'I won't let you see him' again.<br /><br />MarkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-40663442523309264792012-02-08T12:13:24.025+02:002012-02-08T12:13:24.025+02:00wow, Stranger. You've done and are doing so w...wow, Stranger. You've done and are doing so well - you're doing all the yabancıs proud, and most importantly are looking after yourself and your son. As someone who was mighty proud of herself or getting her son's kimlik card replaced without the aid of her husband (he was the wally brain who lost it), I really do salute you. I had no idea what you were going through - well done you for holding it together so very well and getting everything straightened out. may the force be with you in your continued leaping through hoops.Vicky, Bursanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-6146155955524863522012-02-07T21:31:44.579+02:002012-02-07T21:31:44.579+02:00Hee! Thanks Bülent!
You know, that's what I t...Hee! Thanks Bülent!<br /><br />You know, that's what I thought she said, and that's what I originally wrote, but then I lost confidence about my noun endings and changed it.Strangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09933997864575809110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-49509090565540950552012-02-07T17:34:09.091+02:002012-02-07T17:34:09.091+02:00I lack the life experience to say anything useful ...I lack the life experience to say anything useful to you on this but superstition dictates that I ought not sit idly by when a typo makes you the target of a curse. I am almost sure they said "Allah bela<i>sı</i>nı versin." <br /><br />Allah kolaylık versin, hayırlısı neyse o olsun.Bulent Murtezaoglunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-44904051999350985692012-02-07T08:03:47.366+02:002012-02-07T08:03:47.366+02:00Thanks for your kind words, oamletra. It's goo...Thanks for your kind words, oamletra. It's good to hear.<br /><br />Sometimes you have to choose the least crappy of two crappy choices, but I think, despite MIL's pleas to stay together for the child, it's way better to to have to happy-ish parents living apart than two unhappy ones living together in a house of misery and poison...Strangerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09933997864575809110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2799914692887174209.post-67780361399203190902012-02-07T00:16:09.012+02:002012-02-07T00:16:09.012+02:00i've been reading your blog for awhile (it mak...i've been reading your blog for awhile (it makes for better reading than you probably realize) and this is the first time i feel compelled to comment.<br /><br />i'm the son of an american mother and turkish father whose story seems to resemble yours. they divorced when i was 4 years old. well, it's a long story but the point is that it all worked out in the end. my sister and i turned out to be quite alright, certainly no worse than any other kids from any other family, and perhaps even a bit better. honestly, from what i have read you seem more competent than most who face this situation. i'm glad that you have been offered kindness from others around you when you did not expect it. and yes, divorce is neither unusual nor looked down upon as much as you might have thought (given the general crap that women routinely face in turkey).<br /><br />i wish you and your son all the best through a difficult time.oamletrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11984911752397005345noreply@blogger.com